{"id":12778,"date":"2020-12-31T14:35:54","date_gmt":"2020-12-31T13:35:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/empathy-and-narcissism-how-terms-sabotage-your-development\/"},"modified":"2024-11-01T13:24:26","modified_gmt":"2024-11-01T12:24:26","slug":"labels-stunt-growth-empath-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/labels-stunt-growth-empath-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"Labels that stunt your growth | The Empath &amp; the Narcissist"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"12778\" class=\"elementor elementor-12778 elementor-3713\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-633f5dd2 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"633f5dd2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7d5faf18\" data-id=\"7d5faf18\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b34ae49 elementor-toc--minimized-on-tablet elementor-widget elementor-widget-table-of-contents\" data-id=\"b34ae49\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;headings_by_tags&quot;:[&quot;h3&quot;],&quot;exclude_headings_by_selector&quot;:[],&quot;no_headings_message&quot;:&quot;No headings were found on this page.&quot;,&quot;marker_view&quot;:&quot;numbers&quot;,&quot;minimize_box&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;minimized_on&quot;:&quot;tablet&quot;,&quot;hierarchical_view&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;min_height&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]}}\" data-widget_type=\"table-of-contents.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__header\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-toc__header-title\">\n\t\t\t\tOverview\t\t\t<\/h4>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--expand\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__b34ae49\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Open table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--collapse\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__b34ae49\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Close table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-toc__b34ae49\" class=\"elementor-toc__body\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__spinner-container\">\n\t\t\t\t<i class=\"elementor-toc__spinner eicon-animation-spin eicon-loading\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a12e68 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8a12e68\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Introduction to labels, terms &amp; their effects<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-af85334 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"af85334\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We all create an <b>image <\/b>of who we are, who we want to be, and who <u>we absolutely do not want to be<\/u>. This process starts in childhood, where we begin defining ourselves <u>based on concepts that guide us<\/u>: our achievements, setbacks, strengths, weaknesses, and feedback from others. Through <b>reinforcement<\/b> and <b>correction<\/b>, we learn which behaviors are desirable and which are \u201coff-limits,\u201d leading us to associate <b>positive feelings<\/b> with <b>accepted behaviors<\/b> and <b>negative<\/b> ones with those <b>discouraged<\/b>. <br \/>Over time, this process forms a <b>mental picture, an identity\u2014a self-image<\/b>. This is a natural part of being human, and there\u2019s nothing inherently wrong with it.<\/span><\/p><p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Constructivism_(philosophy_of_education)\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><u>Constructivism<\/u><\/span><\/a><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> acknowledges this aspect of human psychology.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">But how aware are we of this in our everyday lives? Do we notice that <b>our image<\/b> of ourselves and the world is something <b>constructed<\/b>, rather than an <u>objective reality<\/u>? Are we <u>conscious<\/u> of the fact that our beliefs, judgments, and opinions represent only subjective snapshots of a broader reality? Often, <u>we define both ourselves and others<\/u> using <b>labels<\/b> and terms that fit the image we&#8217;ve constructed, reinforcing self-perceptions and our perceptions of others.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">This habit can subtly undermine our ability to grow and change. This article invites you to reflect on this. It\u2019s an opportunity to consider whether you\u2019ll carry these <b>restrictive labels<\/b> forward or allow yourself\u2014and others\u2014to embrace change and <b>move beyond<\/b> resistance.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ea2ed56 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ea2ed56\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><b>Labels<\/b> &amp; terms | the Rabbit hole of \"<b>narcissism\"<\/b> and \"<b>empathy\"<\/b> <\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4606d9d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4606d9d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">When we can name things, we often feel <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">secure<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. A category or term can make things <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">understandable<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, giving the mind a sense of peace\u2014a way to feel <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">grounded<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. Terms can offer clarity. A label, such as a diagnosis of <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">narcissistic personality disorder<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, might be helpful as a starting point for therapeutic understanding and personal reflection. It may help in understanding what we perceive in others or use it as a point for personal growth.\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/causes-consequence-narcissis-narcissistic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\"><u>Narcissism<\/u><\/span><\/strong><\/a><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> is a term increasingly used today. People are often called <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">\u201cnarcissistic\u201d<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> or labeled as <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">\u201cthe narcissist\u201d<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, frequently without any formal diagnosis. This can lead to putting others in a <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">box<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, a category that seems to bring stability amidst the chaos many experience after such encounters. Feelings of longing, pain, anger, fear, and insecurity are common. Naturally, grounding oneself in such situations is understandable.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">It&#8217;s important to recognize and acknowledge all these feelings <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">and allow them to exist<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. We can observe what these situations evoke within us: pain, longing, sadness, anger, and even powerlessness. By choosing to look within\u2014this is not about blame or responsibility\u2014we open a door to self-reflection. It\u2019s an invitation to say, &#8220;I want to see, feel, and understand myself.&#8221;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Many people get stuck in accusation and victim mentality, feeling disconnected from themselves. Taking an honest look at how we connect with ourselves, how genuine, loving, and honest we are, is a path toward awareness. It&#8217;s about <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">taking responsibility for our inner processes<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> and choosing consciously how we want to respond to painful situations. Through this, <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">growth<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> can unfold, inner healing can happen, and chaos can begin to settle.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">This journey requires <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">courage<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, as it often involves questioning everything we believe about ourselves, life, and others. It\u2019s about <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">challenging our self-image<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, diving into fears we&#8217;ve long avoided, facing our inner shadows, and learning to accept the full spectrum of our inner world.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Many avoid this step\u2014it\u2019s daunting. People seek security, striving for a sense of order. This leads to categorizing others and even ourselves, believing that life becomes more manageable this way.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">However, labels like <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">empathy<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> and <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">narcissism<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> are just descriptors. They are neutral <u>tools<\/u> to describe traits\u2014nothing more. They\u2019re <b><u>not absolute<\/u><\/b>. In science, statistics provide approximations, yet deviations always exist. Still, humans gravitate toward absolute thinking, seeking security. Recognizing this helps us understand ourselves better. I\u2019ve been in similar relationships and know that, at times, it\u2019s necessary to let go of blame temporarily, to simply breathe.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">In this article, I aim to raise <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">awareness<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> of how the mind operates. It generalizes, categorizes, and tends to make absolutes of things. Identifying with labels can offer calm but may hinder long-term healing and growth if we cling to them too rigidly.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e6a9c05 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"e6a9c05\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-106da40\" data-id=\"106da40\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f464a5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8f464a5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Naming vs. blaming | <b>Use <\/b>of<b> <\/b>concepts<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-444b445 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"444b445\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">In the\u00a0<\/span><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empathic-narcissistic-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><u>empathic-narcissistic<\/u><\/span><\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">or narcissistic\/co-narcissistic constellation, there is a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">polarization.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">This model presents\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">two sides. <\/span><br \/><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">I have detailed this in the\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">article series <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empathic-narciss-attract-8-core-conflict\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>Empathic-Narcissistic Magnetism &#8211; 8 Common Basic Conflicts<\/u><\/a><\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. This model describes various facets and tendencies, but it is <u>not absolute<\/u>. From a psychoanalytic perspective, particularly in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Collusion\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><u>collusion model according to J\u00fcrg Willi<\/u><\/span><\/strong> <\/a><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, there is no clear division of good and evil. It is a <u>neutral<\/u> framework for description.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Narcissism is a term used to describe\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">micro-processes\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">that reflects our emotional tint. The\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">meaning\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">we add to them and how we <\/span><strong><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">subjectively color\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">these experiences depend on our history with the individual who <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/survival-mode-trauma-co-narcissism-heal\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>triggered<\/u><\/b><\/a> these micro-processes. Our levels of <\/span><strong><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">suffering, disappointment,\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">and\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">injury\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">shape our\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">judgment\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, which in turn has an <b>energetic effect<\/b> on both ourselves and others. This influences the <u>weight and meaning<\/u> of the terms\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">narcissism\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">and\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">empathy<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. We seldom judge objectively in such intense situations. We are free to assert, <i>&#8220;That&#8217;s enough!&#8221;<\/i> and often, that is what matters most. Setting boundaries and saying, <i>&#8220;Not like this!&#8221;<\/i> is perfectly <b><u>acceptable &amp; healthy<\/u><\/b>!<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">However, relationships can become painful when individuals perceive themselves as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/10-points-on-empaths-challenges-self-care\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>highly empathetic<\/u><\/b><\/a>. Their empathy may prevent them from recognizing their own dignity.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">At this point, you may see how this\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">self-image\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">can entrap us in these dynamics. We often\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">fear\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">being distanced from our self-image (<i>&#8220;I must be there for others first&#8221;<\/i>). Yet, such relationships might challenge us to expand the parts of ourselves that long for visibility. <\/span><strong><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Visibility\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">and\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">&#8220;being seen.&#8221;\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We often <u>recognize qualities in others<\/u> that we <u>refuse to acknowledge in ourselves<\/u>, due to an inner pressure for matching a certain image. <\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">These internal prohibitions<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> and taboos prolong our suffering.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">While <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/10-points-on-empaths-challenges-self-care\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>being loving, empathetic, and sensitive<\/u><\/b><\/a> is part of who I am, there may be much more to my inner universe, I can\u00b4t see clearly right now. <b>Defining oneself<\/b> strictly as an <u>empathetic person<\/u> may lead to the <u>exclusion of other aspects<\/u> of the very true being. It\u00b4s a limitation, a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">cage<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">\u00a0&#8211; restricting the full expression of self to a pre-defined framework. That applies to both &#8211; the own self and\u00a0the people we\u00b4re relating to.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">When faced with a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/causes-consequence-narcissis-narcissistic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>narcissistic<\/u><\/a>, egocentric\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, and\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">distant partner, this reflects a part of them. But there\u00b4s much more to explore!\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Ultimately, all these definitions reflect our search for\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">stability\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">, a sense of security, and clarity. Yet, we rarely grasp the full picture. This is a lesson humanity must learn.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We cannot know what truly stirs within another person, nor can we feel their past experiences. Nevertheless, we often impose harsh judgments that strip others of their humanity.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We allow ourselves to be <\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">indignant.<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"> The Swiss-Polish author and psychologist\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.alice-miller.com\/en\/the-drama-of-the-gifted-child\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><u>Alice Miller<\/u>\u00a0<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">discusses this in her book\u00a0<\/span><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.alice-miller.com\/en\/the-drama-of-the-gifted-child\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\"><u><b>The Drama of the Gifted Child<\/b><\/u><\/span><\/a><\/em><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">. She explicitly encourages us to\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">&#8220;be angry.&#8221;\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">When we are devalued, disregarded, or manipulated, feeling anger is part of a healing process. It allows us to <u>acknowledge our vulnerability<\/u> and commitment to our <b><u>dignity<\/u><\/b>.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">This process opens doors that may have been once locked &#8211; for survival.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We can <b><u>recognize<\/u><\/b> self-centered, manipulative intentions in ourselves and others and <u>gain clarity<\/u> about them. <\/span><br \/><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Clarity\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">and\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">visibility\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">create the space necessary for healing.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9f7444c elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"9f7444c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/QEiZTK3uzYU&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-66dd970 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"66dd970\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">In this german video, I take a clear stand. You may use auto-translated subtitles to get an idea about my truth. You can also have a look at the details about my <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/special-case-toxic-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>Coaching for toxic relationships<\/u><\/b><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4f80f15 elementor-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"4f80f15\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm\" href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/special-case-toxic-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Toxic relationship<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a7efc21 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a7efc21\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text);\"><br>\n<span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Detach yourself from this energy and concepts&nbsp;<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: Montserrat;\">and move on.&nbsp;Step by step from resistance to&nbsp;<\/span><strong style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text);\"><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">acceptance&nbsp;<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: Montserrat;\">(this does not mean &#8220;liking&#8221; or an agreement to stay).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Sometimes all it takes is:&nbsp;<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\"><i>&#8220;Yes, there are people who are like that.&#8221;<\/i><\/span><br>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">It is <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">your energy, your life force<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> that adheres to <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">negativity<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">. This energy investment leads to a <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">struggle that prevents you from confronting your own shadow issues and growing.<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> Some people choose this ongoing struggle to avoid change or taking a clear, internal decision. Often it\u00b4s simply <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">more convenient<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> to cling to a concept and labels. <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">Us humans are afraid of change.<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> But maybe we should ask ourselves why we keep ending up in similar situations?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">We can only evolve by developing a <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">strategy<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> for dealing with manipulative behavior. We may <u>name<\/u> them, but we do not have to engage in a fight with them (that\u00b4s the entrance door!).&nbsp;Any <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">accusation<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">&nbsp;or a&nbsp;<\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">conceptual battle<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> binds your energy.<\/span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> <br>Identifying the <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">micro processes<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> and finding a clear, authentic attitude is sufficient. The <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">inner relationship<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> needs to be clarified and maintained. This requires a <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">commitment to oneself<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> (<i>&#8220;I stand by myself!&#8221;<\/i>).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">And it\u00b4s always a&nbsp;<\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">training<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">. You need to learn <u>how to speak your truth<\/u> unwaveringly in the face of such irritations. In <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">dignity<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> and <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">self-respect.<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> This sometimes means <u>leaving situations<\/u> where your <\/span><strong style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\">dignity<\/strong><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Montserrat;\"> cannot be preserved.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d3b8d87 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d3b8d87\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-45adb55\" data-id=\"45adb55\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2600896 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2600896\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Pathway to healing | <b>Ending<\/b> the <b>fight<\/b> of Labels &amp; terms<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-075aa6c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"075aa6c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Never ever would I ignore or deny<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">&nbsp;suffering or pain. Neither would I ask someone in pain to excuse or protect the person who harmed them. I just would love to <b>invite<\/b> those people&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">who are or have been in such a relationship to <b><u>end one thing<\/u><\/b>:&nbsp;An <u>ongoing battle of blaming<\/u> because of labels. <b><u>Enter the path to healing<\/u><\/b>! You can start your journey by following those 10 steps:<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-35ba3ec elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"35ba3ec\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-629302f\" data-id=\"629302f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4f100a4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4f100a4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">1. Always remember that\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">the other\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">is a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">human being,\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">a universe with many different facets.<\/span><\/p><p>2. <span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">Embrace the deep\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">truth\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">that you that applies to you as well: You are a <b>unique<\/b><\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">\u00a0human being\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">with an own, internal universe, which may &#8211;\u00a0 in all its unseen aspects &#8211; feel uncertain at times.<\/span><\/p><p>3.\u00a0<strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Understand\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">that all feelings\u2014pain, suffering, sorrow, anger, longing\u2014are valid! Allow them to\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">invite you to turn inward<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">.<\/span><\/p><p>4.\u00a0<strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Recognize\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">when these feelings signal a need for change. Pay attention to circumstances that require active alteration to alleviate suffering.<\/span><\/p><p>5. <span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">Embark on a journey with a courageous heart &#8211; towards a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">new honesty, openness<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">, and acceptance of\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">your humanity<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">, embracing all your strengths and weaknesses.<\/span><\/p><p>6.\u00a0<strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Acknowledge your needs\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">without placing the responsibility for their fulfillment on others.<\/span><\/p><p>7. <span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">Cultivate a\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">healthy awareness\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">of the differences between\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">the processes of others\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">and your own.<\/span><\/p><p>8.\u00a0<strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">Set boundaries\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">for all\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">things\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">and\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">people\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">that violate your <b>d<\/b><\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">ignity\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p><p>9. <span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">Determine your limits when your own behavior might compromise your\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">dignity<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">. Draw boundaries to your own behavior as well &#8211; develop healthy discipline!<\/span><\/p><p>10. <span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">Decide to release the\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">fight of labels\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">and invest your energy in your journey within\u2014toward\u00a0<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat;\">your individuality<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: var(--e-global-color-text);\">.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5cbba06 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5cbba06\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">We need <b>terms<\/b>; that\u2019s a given. However, the real issue lies in our<b> identification<\/b> with these terms (or in labeling). This can cause fights about their meanings. This dynamic is reflected in the current situation we face now in the world. Such labels have a <b>dividing<\/b>, almost <b>splitting<\/b> effect. As a collective, we\u2019ve been presented with such lessons multiple times. We allowed it several times, that discrimation (no matter which one) divided us. Discrimination means &#8220;judging differences&#8221;. We may be different. And there\u00b4s nothing bad about it. But do we need labels and judgments to widen the gap? To put a sentence on someone? Or can we still recognize the value and humanity in each other? Each being has a <b>beating heart<\/b>, even if they may be different. Share different feelings and fears.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Releasing yourself from these labels &amp; terms primarily benefits <b>you<\/b>. It also benefits others. If you retain the ability to see the humanity in others while maintaining your own clarity and boundaries, you <u>contribute to a deeper healing<\/u> that connects us all.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Allow yourself and others to escape the cage of restrictions created by terms &amp; labels. They outline tendencies we may see in ourselves or others. Remember, <strong>You are not responsible for others.<\/strong> Acknowledge that you will never fully understand everything. Accepting this can lead to <strong>peace<\/strong>. Us humans often resist open questions. Yet, we\u2019ll never fully comprehend everything. At best, we see some facets which shape our <u>subjective reality<\/u>.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Perhaps you can begin to consider that there\u2019s so much more about yourself and your fellow human beings that you have yet to discover. This realization might help you finally <strong>let go of what bound you until now.<\/strong> That includes concepts, identities, and contracts you\u2019ve made with yourself about how to conform to your self-image. You truly want to carry that into the life you desire?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">Clinging to those labels &amp; terms, you are perpetuating an <u><a href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellmind.com\/what-is-the-drama-triangle-2796282\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">inner drama cycle<\/a><\/u> characterized by good and evil, victim and perpetrator, even if this is not reflected in your external reality anymore. Do you want this to continue influencing your life? You can initiate a transition: moving from the confined mental cage of rigid concepts &amp; drama into a space of <strong>adventurous curiosity<\/strong> about what life beyond these definitions may offer.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-family: Montserrat; color: black;\">I invite you to gift yourself with lightness: <b><u>Let go of labels &amp; terms.<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4669fa1 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4669fa1\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-47d9558\" data-id=\"47d9558\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d61281a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d61281a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Invitation<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b87ce85 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b87ce85\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re considering being accompanied through the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/mirror-process-inner-universe\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>mirror process of inner work<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, you can book a <a href=\"https:\/\/psysoulogy.youcanbook.me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>free preliminary talk in my booking calendar<\/u><\/b><\/a> at the top right of this page or below this entry.\n\n<span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-weight);\">The <\/span><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: bolder;\">model assumptions<\/span><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-weight);\"> are based on years of professional<\/span> <span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: bolder;\">observation<\/span><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-weight);\">, personal<\/span> <span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: bolder;\">experience<\/span><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-weight);\">, and knowledge from<\/span> <span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: bolder;\">psychoanalysis, psychodynamics, and developmental psychology<\/span><span style=\"color: var(--e-global-color-text); font-family: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-family), Sans-serif; font-weight: var(--e-global-typography-text-font-weight);\">. 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