{"id":12765,"date":"2021-04-22T18:44:29","date_gmt":"2021-04-22T16:44:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/recognizing-toxic-relationships-12-clues\/"},"modified":"2024-11-01T13:36:32","modified_gmt":"2024-11-01T12:36:32","slug":"12-signs-indicating-a-toxic-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/12-signs-indicating-a-toxic-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"12 signs indicating a toxic relationship | red flags\u200b"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"12765\" class=\"elementor elementor-12765 elementor-3936\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3a9a226f elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3a9a226f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-15262ef9\" data-id=\"15262ef9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4ad5bb elementor-toc--minimized-on-tablet elementor-widget elementor-widget-table-of-contents\" data-id=\"a4ad5bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;headings_by_tags&quot;:[&quot;h3&quot;],&quot;exclude_headings_by_selector&quot;:[],&quot;no_headings_message&quot;:&quot;No headings were found on this page.&quot;,&quot;marker_view&quot;:&quot;numbers&quot;,&quot;minimize_box&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;minimized_on&quot;:&quot;tablet&quot;,&quot;hierarchical_view&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;min_height&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]}}\" data-widget_type=\"table-of-contents.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__header\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-toc__header-title\">\n\t\t\t\tOverview\t\t\t<\/h4>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--expand\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__a4ad5bb\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Open table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-down\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--collapse\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__a4ad5bb\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Close table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-toc__a4ad5bb\" class=\"elementor-toc__body\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__spinner-container\">\n\t\t\t\t<i class=\"elementor-toc__spinner eicon-animation-spin eicon-loading\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-0a6bf7e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0a6bf7e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-e3ff80e\" data-id=\"e3ff80e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2be0fd5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2be0fd5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Intrduction I<b> Origin <\/b>of toxic relationships<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c9d858 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5c9d858\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"western\">Every relationship is unique because individuals connect in personal ways, making it difficult to <strong>clearly identify<\/strong> a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong> as such. The dynamics are often complex. In\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empath-narcissist-key-toxic-relationships\/\"><strong><u>this article<\/u><\/strong><\/a>, you&#8217;ll see that toxic relationships frequently <strong>build<\/strong> on <strong>mutual reactions<\/strong>. Peter says something; Helena responds in turn. Then, Peter leaves, and Helena blames herself, and so on. The <strong>toxicity<\/strong> develops from a <strong>pattern of responses<\/strong> to each other. This is how a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong> forms.<\/p><p>When a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong> stems from mutual reactions, we need to look deeper.<\/p><p>A relationship always involves at least two people, each reacting in their own way. The other person also contributes to the <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong>. However, we cannot change others directly. The only option we have is to <strong>start with ourselves<\/strong>. The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/mirror-process-inner-universe\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>inner work of Freer Life (Freieres Leen)<\/u><\/b><\/a>\u00a0begins right here. Because you, too, contribute to such a\u00a0relationship by <strong>reacting<\/strong> in ways that may be <strong>harmful to<\/strong> yourself and the relationship itself.<\/p><p class=\"western\">What few counselors and coaches highlight is: <strong>toxic relationships<\/strong> <u>always<\/u> start with ourselves. It&#8217;s uncomfortable but true, even if the other person hurts, devalues, or ignores you\u2014an obvious sign of toxicity! <strong>Your part in the toxicity<\/strong> could be staying in the situation without setting clear boundaries.<\/p><p>At some point in your own mind, there may be a <strong>toxic relationship with yourself<\/strong>.<\/p><p>This article aims to offer <strong>indicators<\/strong> you can use to assess <u>if <strong>you&#8217;re in a toxic relationship<\/strong><\/u>. These indicators mostly reflect back on yourself. Take a moment to see if any of them resonate.<\/p><p>The key question I encourage you to explore is:<br \/><strong><em>&#8220;What causes me <u>to respond to myself<\/u> in this same toxic way?&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4f72a91 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4f72a91\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-9f7dced\" data-id=\"9f7dced\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dd04121 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dd04121\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><b>12 signs <\/b>indicating<b> <\/b>a<b> toxic relationship<\/b><\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1df92b8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1df92b8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong><u>1. You are often afraid of doing something &#8220;wrong&#8221;<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Do you fear <b><u>(emotional) punishment<\/u><\/b> if you say or do something <strong>&#8220;wrong&#8221;<\/strong>? Maybe you <strong>doubt<\/strong> your own intentions, or you\u2019re being <strong>accused of intentions<\/strong> that don\u2019t align with your actions. Perhaps your partner has certain sensitivities and sore points that you try to avoid?<br><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">Ask yourself sincerely, what would be so bad about <\/span><strong style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">doing something &#8220;wrong&#8221;<\/strong><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">? We all make mistakes, have weaknesses, and have sore points. If you feel that this is <\/span><strong style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">not &#8220;allowed&#8221;<\/strong><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"> in your relationship, it may indicate the next point.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><u>2. You repeatedly experience &#8220;systematic punishment&#8221; or emotional blackmail<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Punishment doesn\u2019t always mean physical attacks; it can be verbal, gestural, behavioral, or emotional. You express a need or make a statement, but your partner <strong>ignores<\/strong> you or <strong>freaks out<\/strong>. You want to clarify a topic, but your partner <u>attacks<\/u> your need for clarity or leaves the situation altogether. If you fear <strong>systematic punishment<\/strong> and <strong>emotional blackmail<\/strong>, this may indicate a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empath-narcissist-key-toxic-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><u>toxic relationship<\/u><\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>3. A silent set of rules governs the relationship<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>These <b><u>rules<\/u><\/b> are linked to the previous points. Take a close look! Are there certain <em><strong>&#8220;things you don\u2019t talk about&#8221;<\/strong><\/em>? Are there topics that, when raised, always lead to &#8220;punishments&#8221;? It may be that your partner has established <strong><u>silent rules<\/u><\/strong> that dictate your interactions. For example, one rule might be, <em>&#8220;If you\u2019re critical of my behavior, I won\u2019t talk to you anymore,&#8221;<\/em> or <em>&#8220;If you\u2019re too assertive, I\u2019ll pick a fight.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><u>4. You submit to these silent rules &#8211; acceptance of emotional blackmail<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you find yourself <u><b>constantly considering<\/b> how to approach topics<\/u> to avoid being <strong>devalued, attacked<\/strong>, or <strong>ignored<\/strong>, this could indicate that you\u2019re <b><u>adapting<\/u><\/b> to these silent rules to avoid conflict, which can be toxic.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>5. You feel you\u2019re only partially allowed to express yourself<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Do you feel like your <b><u>personality is suppressed<\/u><\/b> in this relationship? That you cannot <strong>actively shape<\/strong> the relationship according to your values? You feel like walking on eggs? Another sign of a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong> may be if you find yourself <u>constantly compromising<\/u> your needs and values.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><u><b>6. Your perceptions and needs are devalued &#8211; <\/b><a style=\"font-weight: bold;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=kkR716_l8Hc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Gaslighting<\/a><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Do your needs or perceptions often seem dismissed? Do you repeatedly feel that instead of being acknowledged, they\u2019re questioned, devalued, or rejected? This can be a sign of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=kkR716_l8Hc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Gaslighting<\/strong><\/a>, a common feature of toxic relationships.&nbsp;<a style=\"background-color: rgba(255, 235, 254, 0.41);\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=kkR716_l8Hc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><u>This (german) video about Gaslighting<\/u><\/strong><\/a><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">&nbsp;could be watched with auto-translated subtitles. <b>Gaslighting<\/b> mostly occurs in <\/span><a style=\"background-color: rgba(255, 235, 254, 0.41);\" href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empath-narcissist-key-toxic-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><u>empath-narcissist dynamics<\/u><\/strong><\/a><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"> and other toxic relationships. My book on that topic is only available in german right no (<\/span><a style=\"background-color: rgba(255, 235, 254, 0.41);\" href=\"https:\/\/www.exit-gaslighting.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong><u>www.exit-gaslighting.com<\/u><\/strong><\/a>)<span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>7. Lack of commitment &#8211; drama and extremes are routine<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>If <b><u>drama<\/u><\/b> is a constant in your relationship, with cycles of separation and reconciliation, this may indicate a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong>. While not all emotional distancing is toxic, extremes and constant re-evaluation can be stressful and unhealthy. The extremes of dramatic events encompass positive interactions as well! A lot of highs and lows indicate toxicity.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>8. You\u2019re always working on yourself to make the relationship work<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>If both partners genuinely want to improve for each other and the relationship, this can be positive. However, <u>if you\u2019re the only one making efforts<\/u>, taking on the full burden, you\u00b4re a one-man-show in a&nbsp;<strong>toxic relationship<\/strong>. Efforts should be balanced.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>9. You feel responsible for saving your partner, even though the relationship harms you<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>If you <u><b>endure pain or humiliation<\/b><\/u>, yet stay out of a sense of duty or hope, remember that <strong>you cannot save another person<\/strong>. This imbalance can leave you drained and negatively impact your well-being.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>10. Lack of energy and interest &#8211; you\u2019re consumed by the relationship<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Do you feel <b><u>exhausted<\/u><\/b>, with no energy left for other aspects of life? If your relationship <b><u>absorbs all your focus<\/u><\/b>, making you neglect personal interests and friends, this could indicate an unhealthy fixation on the relationship.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>11. Constant worry and fear &#8211; lack of trust<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>If <b><u>trust is lacking<\/u><\/b> in your relationship, you may feel constantly tense, worried, or fearful. Many toxic relationships create a <b>one-sided power imbalance<\/b> where you feel responsible for everything while struggling with tension and worry.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\"><br><b><u>12. Feeling powerless in the relationship<\/u><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Feeling unable to change the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/empath-narcissist-key-toxic-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>dynamic<\/u><\/b><\/a> or express your needs is a <b><u>red flag<\/u><\/b> for <strong>toxic relationships<\/strong>. In these cases, efforts at self-improvement often have little impact on the underlying issues. Because your energy yields towards learning to ride a dead horse.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6c9af98 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6c9af98\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c44c561\" data-id=\"c44c561\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4816f8f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4816f8f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><b>Recognize<\/b> &amp; <b>end<\/b> the toxic relationship within<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7e974be elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7e974be\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>There is certainly <strong>more evidence of<\/strong> a <strong>toxic relationship<\/strong>. The descriptions listed here are neutral and non-judgmental. And they mainly refer to you, so that you can see for yourself what you can&amp; want to change.<\/p><p>The signs have <strong>not been empirically verified<\/strong> but sprung from my pen. Therefore, they only represent <strong>my personal opinion<\/strong>.<\/p><p>I sincerely hope that these points can help you to self-reflect. You might want to use the opening question for this:<\/p><p><strong><em>&#8220;What makes me react toward myself in this same toxic way?&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p><p>I wish you a <strong>freer life<\/strong>! One that is free from <u>constraints, rules,<\/u> and <u>laws<\/u> that have simply been imposed on you. One in which there is a dear friendship with yourself and all your parts. A life that is supported by trust (in you) and in which you can see yourself laughing, light &amp; happy, while not shying away from depth. Maybe you can allow your <strong>love to include yourself<\/strong>. <strong>With all your parts!<\/strong><\/p><p><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">If you got curious about &#8220;how to?&#8221;, I reccomend my\u00a0<\/span><a style=\"background-color: #ffffff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/blog-inner-universe-toxic-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: bolder;\"><u>blog<\/u><\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">\u00a0section. Here, you can find free transformative information which will\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">add value for you. The articles contribute to accompanying you into<\/span><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-weight: bolder;\">self-empowerment<\/span><span style=\"color: var( --e-global-color-text );\">, offering suggestions, valuable impulses, and starting points.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p>From the heart, all the love! <br \/>Namast\u00e9<br \/>Your Kristina<\/p><p><strong>Picture Credit:<\/strong> Photo by <a href=\"https:\/\/pixabay.com\/de\/users\/victoria_borodinova-6314823\/?utm_source=link-attribution&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=image&amp;utm_content=4884735\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Victoria Borodinova on Pixabay<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bc683c9 elementor-section-stretched elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bc683c9\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;stretch_section&quot;:&quot;section-stretched&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-18c7618\" data-id=\"18c7618\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0e89b95 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"0e89b95\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Invitation<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bc29295 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bc29295\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"color: white;\">If you\u2019re considering being accompanied through the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/mirror-process-inner-universe\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>mirror process of inner work<\/strong><\/span><\/a>, you can book a <a href=\"https:\/\/psysoulogy.youcanbook.me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b><u>free preliminary talk in my booking calendar<\/u><\/b><\/a> at the top right of this page or below this entry.<\/p>\n\n<p style=\"color: white;\"><span style=\"color: white;\">The <\/span><span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">model assumptions<\/span><span style=\"color: white;\"> are based on years of professional<\/span> <span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">observation<\/span><span style=\"color: white;\">, personal<\/span> <span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">experience<\/span><span style=\"color: white;\">, and knowledge from<\/span> <span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">psychoanalysis, psychodynamics, and developmental psychology<\/span><span style=\"color: white;\">. For more information, please refer to the<\/span> <a style=\"text-decoration-line: underline; color: white;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/copyright\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">Copyright<\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: white;\"> notice. The articles, including assumptions and hypotheses, may be<\/span> <span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">shared freely<\/span><span style=\"color: white;\">, but please always provide<\/span> <span style=\"color: white; font-weight: bolder;\">attribution <\/span><span style=\"color: white;\">(my name and the website).<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Overview Intrduction I Origin of toxic relationships Every relationship is unique because individuals connect in personal ways, making it difficult to clearly identify a toxic relationship as such. The dynamics are often complex. In\u00a0this article, you&#8217;ll see that toxic relationships frequently build on mutual reactions. Peter says something; Helena responds in turn. Then, Peter leaves, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":12440,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_glsr_average":0,"_glsr_ranking":0,"_glsr_reviews":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[857],"tags":[1104,1102,944,1108,438,1109,1107,1103,987,963,1052,1100,1099,1106,1105,966],"class_list":["post-12765","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationships","tag-12-red-flags-toxic-relationship","tag-12-signs-for-a-toxic-relationship","tag-boundaries","tag-evolve","tag-gewalt","tag-heal-your-relationship-within","tag-healthy-relationship","tag-how-to-find-ou-if-you-are-in-a-toxic-relationship","tag-narcissism","tag-narcissist","tag-narcissistic-abuse","tag-red-flags","tag-signs","tag-toxic","tag-toxic-relatiohsip","tag-toxic-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12765","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12765"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12765\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12440"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freieresleben.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}